Unpopular opinion about trauma

Unpopular opinion coming from trauma experts: we all have trauma.
It’s a word that no longer defines extreme events.
Now we know that many traumas are actually preverbal which means we have no memory of our first traumas.

… It could be as simple as being a baby crying and not being comforted; not being fed when hungry; it goes all the way to the development in the womb and the influence of an emotional state of the mother …
Our nervous system and body have memories.
Those are our blueprint, running our every day lives and relationships unless we become aware of them.

There is one trauma we all have in common : the first breath we took.
It’s a shock to a baby’s system to suddenly not take oxygen from the mother and start breathing on its own. And the way that happens sets a blueprint of breath.

Our breath is directly connected to our nervous system which then influences all other systems … until we start making our breath conscious, we are breathing and living on autopilot.

We may not remember many traumas..
But our body does ;)

The very good news is : we are capable of rewiring and rewriting the stories in our body.
🙌

(Btw, the Yogis have known this for thousands of years)

What I see a lot around me is then the chase to “fix” things. Deep dive into the trauma world.
What we can often forget is that this is a two way street. There is a way down to the underworld and there is also the way up to practice who we are if we are not “that” anymore.
That’s why I, personally, think it’s so incredibly important to have an embodied practice and (!) to have guidance when working with the body.

What we also sometimes forget in the midst of “fixing” and healing and liberating… is to have fun. We can forget the lightness.
We are of course self centred creatures thinking the universe turns around us and in all the chase we forget the humour and playfulness.
So I often think : if I don’t have access and guidance to the way up, better don’t even start diving down…
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I don’t believe having a peaceful and balanced life is a luxury.
IT’S A BIRTHRIGHT.
My question is: Where to from here?
THRIVING.
CHOOSING contentment.
When it becomes a choice.